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If a lot of money is at stake, hire a forensic accountant -- your divorce lawyer will know one. The accountant will press for documents that show more fully where all the business assets are and how much cash is floating around.

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You'll need personal money to tide yourself over during the months it takes to reach a settlement. If your spouse hit you with the split by surprise, he or she is probably prepared, so you're at a disadvantage. Holding some money separately makes sense in any relationship.

So do separate credit cards. Freeze an open, joint home-equity line and joint credit cards immediately, so your ex-to-be won't be tempted to run up extra debt. In "good" divorces, the freeze should occur by mutual agreement. In bad divorces, one spouse could be left without credit or access to cash. Nail down any money you brought to the marriage. You can normally take inheritances and any pre-marital personal savings away with you, even in a community property state, as long as it stayed in your separate name.

If you mixed it into the general pot of assets acquired after the marriage, however, it will probably have to be divided when you separate, in amounts depending on state law. You might get a larger settlement if you can show that your money financed the family business or your ex's professional education. Go after the pension and retirement accounts. Individual Retirement Accounts, k s, and company pensions all have to be divided, although not necessarily in half. If you each have plans, both of them are up for grabs. The QDRO should say what you'll get, when you'll get it, and how the value will be figured.

The company has to approve the wording, to be sure that it follows all the plan rules. Otherwise you won't be paid, no matter what the divorce agreement says. You'll need an expert to check the value of a traditional pension. If you can get only a future payout from the plan, you might want to trade it for more cash or property now.

If your spouse has stock options, an excess benefits plan, or any other type of deferred compensation, negotiate for a piece of this, too.

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Don't expect permanent alimony. A spouse with low or no income might get alimony, but awards are often not enough to support your current standard of living and are often for a limited time period. Judges expect dependent spouses who can do so to go out and get a job. You should get a better settlement if you can show that you've applied for jobs and will probably earn much less.

If there is only enough money in the pot for one home, the partner in need of a house for the children will get the money. The economically stronger partner is sometimes upset by that. There is child maintenance, and sometimes spousal maintenance, to prevent hardship to one party if they earn less than the other.

Term orders are coming into play more often now. Will my ex have to pay a higher amount if they committed adultery? Fiona Read, partner and head of the family team at Russell-Cooke. Conduct of this nature will not have an impact on what a court will order in terms of finances.

However, if your ex moves in with a new partner, that can affect the level of maintenance you get.

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Bad behaviour on the part of your ex will only play a part in the settlement if it is very extreme and exceptional, or is of a financial nature: Judges are not influenced by how the parties have behaved towards one another when it comes to sharing out money. Not disclosing assets is particularly frowned upon and the courts have recently unravelled court orders where there has been non-disclosure. Adultery can influence a settlement that does not reach court, however. If the parties are reaching their own agreement, they can take into account any factors they consider appropriate.

Frequently there is a more favourable settlement to one spouse if the other feels morally compelled because they feel guilty about their conduct. How can I protect my interests prior to a divorce? The cardinal rule is: Doing so puts the other party in the driving seat. Try to get together as much legitimate paperwork as you can. Often, people come in with bags of stuff we are not allowed to look at because it has not been legitimately gained.

There are strict boundaries. Be aware of what his assets might be, what you have in your savings, and so forth. Money being moved out of a joint account should ring alarm bells. Is a prenup a good idea? Certain criteria give them huge weight, such as if you want to protect your assets for your children. Prenups are not just for the very wealthy. First, take a step back. Is divorce the right answer?

Professional counselling services can help you through this posed by models. What are the first steps I should take when divorce becomes inevitable? Lois Langton, partner in the family team at Howard Kennedy. Professional counselling services can help you through this. Next, locate your marriage certificate. This may seem obvious but you need the certificate to start divorce proceedings.

Give priority to your children. Try not to lose sight of that. It can be hard to recall what has happened and when, and it may be useful later on. Get your house in order: A word of caution: Consult a lawyer early on. How can I prioritise my children throughout the divorce process? Sandra Davis, partner and head of the family department at Mishcon de Reya. Divorce can have a hugely adverse impact on children, even in the most civilised of cases. All too often they are used as pawns in the process of separation and can become collateral damage if their interests are not prioritised.

Reaching out to secure support from a therapist or child psychologist can be invaluable in learning how to set new boundaries and minimise conflict. Retaliation and retribution conducted through court proceedings or solicitor correspondence is unhealthy; for both financial and child-related disputes court should be a last resort. Alternative dispute resolution gives a wider range of more conciliatory choices.

Hide things from your attorney. Attorneys can prepare for and deal with facts. Surprises on the other hand create problems. The same goes for destroying evidence. Dispose of assets you know your spouse is going to request. Fail to keep a copy of all communications with your soon to be ex-spouse. That would be stupid.

Make comments in front of your children about your spouse. Children are not the jury for a divorce. Leave the kids out of it. All they want is to be loved.


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Send nasty text messages, email or voice mail. Show anger in front of the judge, clerk, your spouse or your children. Screaming or violent outburst only serve to impress upon people that you are irrational. Fail to weigh the trial of a case on economic and non-economic terms. The romance is gone. It is now a matter of money and custody.

Do you really want to stand in front of the judge while a lawyer questions you about your infidelity, gambling problem or pornography addiction? Are you familiar with alienation of affection and what it can cost? It will only polarize your soon to be ex-spouse even more.

It also provides the perfect opportunity for the new lover to be a witness and generally an unprepared witness at that. Speak with the lawyer for your spouse or anyone associated with their office for any reason. Be calm and rational. You rarely lose anything by failing to respond quickly. Calmly think about the situation and then respond if required. Talk while others are talking. You can often gain an advantage in a divorce by soaking up knowledge, but rarely will you do so by passing it out.

You need to be the one that is learning, not the one that is teaching. You are not going to convert anyone during a divorce case. You can however, piss them off or convenience them that you are hypocritical. Make proposals you are not fully prepared to live with. Otherwise, your credibility goes out the window. Withhold visitation for failure to pay child support or vice versa. This is a good way to go to jail for contempt. Fail to read all orders entered in your divorce case. Ask your attorney for them. Your financial situation is about to change……drastically.

This is a time to be very conservative with your finances. Fail to create a rainy day fund. Keep some cash somewhere safe that you can use for emergencies. Fail to consider the tax implications of divorce. Your tax situation is about to change. Fail to update your legal documents. Do you want your soon to be ex-spouse using that power of attorney from ten years ago to remove money from your retirement?

Do you want them to make the decision as to whether or not life saving measures should be taken if you have a serious medical condition? Do you want your soon to be ex-spouse to receive all your assets if you kick the bucket the day before your divorce becomes final? These events can be avoided, put they must be planned for. Get pregnant or get anyone pregnant. Pregnancy can stall a divorce while the court waits to find out the identity of the father.

Do you want to wait months only to provide proof of your infidelity? Every divorce is different. You are paying an attorney to watch out for your best interests.

Either trust your attorney or find an attorney you can trust. Fail to take an inventory of household items. You need to be able to show what assets have been removed or destroyed. If nothing else, walk through the house with a video camera and video everything there. It will help you create a list of assets. Fail to keep your attorney advised of your whereabouts. The only thing more troubling for an attorney than a lying client is a client that falls off the face of the earth. Fail to keep a divorce diary. Make notes of things that happen.

Cash refund checks that in all honesty belong to your spouse. If a tax refund check comes in, try to reach agreement on a division. Fail to pay child support via check. Better early than jailed for contempt. Fail to remember than Chancery Court is a Court of equity. Discuss settlement with your spouse after you have been drinking. That great idea you had at midnight may not be such a great idea the next morning when you wake up with a hangover and even your dog is looking at you funny.

Fail to realize that if you have a child or children, the divorce is not the end. You will still have to deal with your ex-spouse for many years to come.

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If you are unreasonable now, there is a good chance that your ex-spouse will be unreasonable with you for many years to come. Fail to understand that a happy ex-spouse is a key to your happiness. Fail to understand that the more unreasonable you are, the more unreasonable your spouse will be. You have to give something to receive something. Children generally have an established network of friends and family where they are. Relocation will be difficult on you and will likely be even more difficult on them. Make extrajudicial modifications to any court order.

Stated another way, do whatever the court orders you to do and do it until the court orders you to do something different. Be your own lawyer. You figure you will save a few bucks, but in the long run you wont. If you really desire to end up back in court or worse in jail , draft your own pleadings and draft your own custody agreement.

So there you have it. Forty things not to do during your divorce. This list is by no means exhaustive. Like right now, I just remembered that I failed to tell you that you should never discuss advice or strategy received from your attorney with other persons. That destroys the attorney-client privilege and the attorney on the other side is free to obtain this type of information in discovery. I suspect you could probably name 4 or 5 other things in addition to my Divorce is generally a traumatic and life changing experience.

Last week, I attended a CLE seminar on malpractice prevention. One of the speakers cautioned us about inadvertently creating attorney-client relationships. Filed under Law Tagged with divorce. About randywallace I am a husband, father, attorney, outdoorsman and cook. Sorry this is so long i need help 6 weeks before court results Raymond H Hoskins. Hoskins, it appears you are in quite the predicament. Best response I can give you is to consult with a lawyer in your area. We appear to be in different states on opposite sides of the US.

Reblogged this on Sixty and Single Again. I just love this!!! Where, oh where, did you come up with any of this? What is so funny about facts? Have you ever gone through a divorce, they can get very ugly, sometimes very quickly. My daughter is going through one now, so tell me what do you find so funny? Are you even an adult? To those of us who have had terrible divorces nothing is funny. Maybe you should consider researching some facts before thinking everything is so funny. Which part was funny to you?

The part where some people lose family heirlooms to pissed off spouses, maybe the part where some people use their children as weapons? Wtf is wrong with you? Couple in divorce ordered to stop posting about each other on Facebook randywallace. I am going through a divorce as well.

The agreement and negotiations are all done, but he came back and asked me to stay married. Divorce is such a hard thing. He cheated on me still with her , we have no kids. I filed…, I did not want to. I Wanted to work things out. I Wish my soon to be ex would want to return. Do you survive this? Going through the same thing here. Mom of a 5 year old little boy, everything was so good or so I thought. Broke me into pieces. He acts as if I never existed. Divorce is so horrible! Anonymous, It is the probably the most painful thing to go through.

For me the pain did not want to go away and my days seem grey and never the same again. I still tear up sometimes when I get reminded. He left me for another woman all of a sudden! I was pregnant with his third child and I wanted to work it out and he was not gonna have it. He was in love with some other woman. I felt so worthless! I gave him everything he asked for! I sold my two cars so he can buy himself a motorcyle and a truck among other things I sacrificed for his happiness. I have not met anyone as fun as him.

I know it sounds so superficial but it affects the relationship alot. I know I am better off with someone who will treat me alot better. He was emotionally abusive to our little ones and almost physically but I would get in front of them to protect them. We would fight about this all the time. They will describe your mate to the T. Keep your head up. You should be careful with your heart and who you get involved with.

Be very aware of red flags and leave if you see any! It is better that he left now and not when you were pregnant with his third child or before having any children because then they would suffer and you would suffer knowing they are suffering. I wish you the best. You will find your true love just do things to cheer yourself up and do what you love! You may find him when you are doing what you love! I was with mine for almost 15 years. I tried to give my two kids and her everything I could the big nice house, new car every few years, full time nanny, and a maid to help.

The final thing for me was her work was giving her hard time with her money. I got her a job with my company making good salary plus a large bonus plan. Ive worked for this company for 9 Years love my job. Month into it she started sleeping with engineer to dating him. He is totally married with 3 kids. I filled got separation done. Even with court order stating she had to leave still can get her out of the house.

I really feel for all of us that have been done wrong or going threw all this , more so for our kids. I get threw it day by day living for my kids , family ,friends ,and prayer. Good things will come to good people keep you chin up and take your time to find the right person for you.

Best wishes god bless Jason. Married 10 yrs 4children. There have been affairs in the past. We separated this past july-oct. We reconciled 2weeks before he took a job states away. He got a moving bonus for his family he never intended to take with him. He would come see kids and I one wkend out of the month. Calls became fewer and fewer.

And when he would come home he just seemed very cold. I begged for reassurance he refused to give. Then came the i dont live you anymore…. I Filed for divorce yesterday. The tears are slowing…I would ball uncontrollably almost daily. Just burst into tears…I would have to run to the restroom so kids wldnt see me…. I love him with every fiber of my being. And never wanted kids to not have him everyday. Basically he left us because him and I were not inlove….