Just ask New England Patriots coach Bill Belichick, normally stoic, who got teary as he announced the retirement of his star linebacker Tedy Bruschi. Or Hilary Clinton, whose tears one night on the presidential campaign trail were splashed across TV screens. Football coaches and politicians crying in public may reflect a society that's evolving to become a bit more comfortable with emotion. But crying in front of people can still be awkward for the person crying and people around them. What's behind our crying? Why do some people cry so much more or less readily than others?
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And what's the best way to handle all those tears? Is there a way not to cry when it's totally inappropriate, such as in response to your boss declining that request for a raise? Researchers and therapists who study crying share what they've learned -- and what still puzzles them. The ''why'' of crying may seem obvious and straightforward: You're happy or sad.
But that's too simplistic. For instance, he says, ''people cry in response to something of beauty. There, I use the word 'melting. There is a buildup of energy with feelings. On top of that, crying may have a biochemical purpose. It's believed to release stress hormones or toxins from the body, says Lauren Bylsma, a PhD student at the University of South Florida in Tampa, who has focused on crying in her research.
Lastly, crying has a purely social function, Bylsma says. It often wins support from those who watch you cry. Sometimes, crying may be manipulative -- a way to get what you want, whether you're asking a friend to go shopping with you, your spouse to agree to a luxurious vacation, or your child to get their math homework done. Women tend to cry more than men do, most experts concur. To some degree it's changing," Sideroff says. When it comes to crying habits, the population as a whole is on a spectrum, experts say, with some crying easily and others rarely.
Experts aren't exactly sure why, though temperament probably plays a role. People with a history of trauma have been found to cry more, Sideroff says.
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That's especially true, he says, if they dwell on that past. Women who report anxiety , as well as those who are extroverted and empathetic, are more likely to say they feel comfortable crying, according to Bylsma. Those were the results of a study Bylsma and others published in Personality and Individual Differences in Usually, but not always, says Bylsma. In a study of nearly Dutch women, Bylsma found that most did say they felt better after crying.
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Exactly why isn't known, she tells WebMD. It could be that those who are depressed or anxious simply don't derive the same benefits from crying as others do. If you're not a world-class crier but are often around those who cry, it can make you feel awkward, useless, or just uncomfortable.
That's because when someone cries, it shows their vulnerability, Sideroff says. Sometimes, it's just not cool to let the tears flow -- you are trying to put up a brave face while accompanying a loved one to a medical treatment, for instance. Pain, pain go away! Please do not come back another day.
Tears falling down my face. Oh, how I wish for his warm embrace. Pain, pain, so much pain. So much trouble in this world. How can someone ever feel my pain? Broken but will continue to be spoken, reaching for a hand while sinking in quicksand. Saying you loved me, with that look in your eye, I wish I could say it was a cold hearted lie, I know that you love me, I know that you care, But the rage inside you, slowly flared.
There is this guy who means the world to me, and I am in love with him, but he does not feel the same way back, and he treats me very poorly.
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He verbally abuses me and makes me cry, and I Sometimes I wonder how you do it. How can you sit back and watch yourself hurt someone so bad and not feel any guilt?
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You say things to me, about me, or behind me. And you still look at me the same way. He texted me every day. We met and hung out every weekend. I laughed at stories he told. We shared happy moments together. He made me survive after lonely days. I felt happy again, discovered Menu Search Login Loving. Keep me logged in.
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Hurting Poems Email Share. June Running, running far away Escaping dreams of yesterday. Lost By Shelli Published: July I thought it was a dream, I thought it wasn't real But pain really hurts and it's really how I feel Memories keep coming back, and so do all of the tears I hear your voice, and as quick as the smile came, it quickly disappears Read Complete Poem.
September You will regret That you made me cry, That you didn't see your love in my eye, That you failed my heart and didn't even try. February This pain is taking its toll, But my love it never gets old The trials and defeated emotions Keeping me sane with magical potions Read Complete Poem. Lies By Kendra Published: July Pain, pain go away! Is It Worth The Pain?
November Saying you loved me, with that look in your eye, I wish I could say it was a cold hearted lie, I know that you love me, I know that you care, But the rage inside you, slowly flared.